Written by Melissa Woods
'Here comes the groom and bride', not something we ever hear, for a good reason!... Grooms! It's Your Big Day Too... Dress Like It!
Traditionally, the onus has always been on the bride to look extra special on the big day. It starts with the ritual of getting a bunch of your most trusted females together to follow you around the local bridal boutiques, quaffing champagne... (this bit only happens in the movies btw)... whilst you twirl around in front of them, waiting for your mum to cry so you know you have found 'the one'. The all important decision is then guarded with your life, for months upon months, until you finally get to have your moment, hoping that your over-inflated secret doesn't turn out to be an anti-climax.
Meanwhile, no one could give a shit what the groom turns up in, as long as he turns up.... Perhaps this is why the dreaded 'monkey suit' has hung around for so long... 'cos no one was really looking. I'm proud to say, I have been to a few friend's weddings where the groom attire has been awesome because the guys were still looking smart, staying true to their personality and doing the bride justice. Exactly how it should be.
I probably... no, DEFINITELY denied Ben this freedom for our wedding. I saw the look of relief on his face when I vetoed our initial selection of plain black, hire suit, after the first fitting. My exact words to the manager, 'would you get married in this?' I'll spare you all the problems we had, but, think back to the final scene in BIG when Josh (Tom Hanks) descends back into his adolescent body, drowning in his Sunday best. That. We rectified it in the end, thanks to the Jan' sales at Aquascutum... a suit that Ben still loves to wear to this day.... to other people's weddings. Fortunately, Ben is one of those people who looks good in anything, subdued wedding day attire included, but, given half the chance, he probably would have married in full leathers, and speaking as a 'recovered' BRIDEZILLA, I'm ok with this.
My advice to the guys would be to avoid any specialist, formal hire retailers. My own experience was abysmal, but, this doesn't mean there won't be some excellent services out there... it's just that they are all completely lacking in any originality.... you've seen one, you've seen them all. Look to the fashion industry for your inspiration, see what's happening on the catwalks and you will know what to look for on the high street. Don't be afraid to let your true self shine through. Be colorful. Be memorable. It's your big day too, so dress like it!
P.S whilst writing this, I discovered that Fred Savage did not play 'young Josh' in BIG. Who knew?
I'd love to hear your views on 'groom attire'. Do you think guys should hold back or go for it?!